In need of a real date!

Dear Elyse,
I'm 24 years old and looking to date. The dating world these days seems so casual. Instead of inviting me on a proper date, guys just tell me that they are hanging out with a bunch of friends and I might want to stop by their crib. When I do stop by their crib, I might make it to a make out, and after a few hangouts we might go all the way. Call me old fashioned but I really would like a traditional date once in a while.
Yours, In need of a real date

Dear In need of a real date,
It sounds like you feel slighted that you aren't invited on a proper date by suitors. Well- get over it. In today's times, casual dating seems to be all the rage. And believe it or not there are some positives of casual dating. Casual dating allows you to get to know your crush in different contexts before deciding whether you want to pursue the relationshis. Witnessing how your guy interacts and treats his friends will shed light on his values, morals, and sense of humor. AFter you get to know your guy in casual encounters, then push for a date. But honey, you might need to step up to the plate. Instead of waiting for your potential mate to ask you on a date, think of something the two of you can do together and take the initiative. Get tickets to a basketball game or the newest movie. Then ask your friend if he would like to attend with you. If he says no - at least you know where you stand. And who is to say- from going on all those group encounters you may find some of his buds attractive. Remember don't do anything you'll regret later. Need I say more. Step it up, girl!
Yours, Elyse

Ask the guys

As promised, I am posting the Ask Guys findings. The question I asked for Ask The Guys was something that I'm sure burns in all you single gals minds. What makes a girl someone who is beyond a hookup girl and an actual girlfriend. Here are some surprising answers. (1) Manners. Be polite and courteous if you want to make it past the first month. (2) Stability (3) Not wearing a skirt or extremely revealing clothing. (4) Don't sleep with the guy until after two weeks. (5) The girl who you can take home to mom. Well- I guess it take more than just having a hot barbie doll body and an endearing personality to build a long term relationship.

Hiding being hot for her

Dear Elyse,
I met this girl and she was oh so fine. We had a great conversation and ended up realizing that we have several interests and values in common. She even asked about my family. This was Friday night. I really want to see her again. Do you think that I should wait till Tuesday before I email her?
Yours,
Hiding being Hot for Her

Dear Hiding Being Hot for Her,
Please know that if you really like a girl and feel that she likes you, it is better to call sooner than later as then you will be putting her out of her agony. Do you think any girl likes waiting by the phone for you to call? Also it sounds like you are concerned about coming across as too eager to get in her pants. Whether or not girls perceive you as a pervert or as over eager isn't really about how long you wait to call, it's more about the content of your messages. If you say something like want to come over or you are really hot than that will be construed as a booty call. However, if you suggest a romantic yet not overtly sexual activity than you will be seen as a suitor and woman love that. What woman would turn down a date to paddle around the lake in central park? Yours,
Elyse