Triad

Dear Elyse,
I'm a member of a triad. In other words, my boyfriend is dating me and anther woman. We all live together and do many activities jointly. He alternates who he sleeps with each night. The three of us are going to my family for the holidays and I'm wondering how I should explain our relationship to them.
Yours,
Triad member

Dear Triad Member,
Your arrangement is a unique format that is constantly being altered and explored. Props to you for being adventurous. How about telling your relatives that you are part of a social experiment sponsored by a University Research Group and trying something new and then tell them the details of your configuration as you know them? Or better yet, simply tell them that you are in a unique situation and while it may seem incomprehensible to them it keeps you satisfied. Explain them to why it works for you. Explain to them that you are not asking for their approval just their acknowledgement. Also if they have questions, let them know that you are happy to entertain the questions as long as they are asked in a non hostile manner. Be prepared with websites that offer information about this, if you feel it gets hostile or you feel that you are at a loss for how to answer them. Good luck! Remember there are plenty of movies playing on Christmas Day if the discussion gets too heated for your taste. And keep being a pioneer.
Yours,
Elyse