Break up dos and don't s

Dear Elyse,
I'm currently dating someone and it isn't going well. He adores me and thinks that the relationship is perfect. I'd like to break up with him but the task of ending the relationship is harrowing. How should I approach it?
Yours,
Not Knowing How to Break up

Dear Not Knowing How to Break up,
First we'll start of with some ways not to break up.
(1) Change your Facebook status to in a relationship with a different person or single and hope that he'll get the hint.
(2) Send him a text that it is over or better yet have another guy send him a text that it is over.
(3) Stop returning his calls, emails and texts and eventually hope that he gets the hint.
(4) Arrange for a mutual friend to let it slip causally that you have a new boyfriend.
Just for the record these were tactics used by people who shall remain nameless.
Now for the ways that are less shell-shocking and heartless.
(1) Treat him to a dinner at a plush restaurant. Explain to him that you find him to be a very nice man with so many outstanding qualities ( up to you to determine what these qualities are). Tell him that you are sure he will make a good partner to someone one of these days. Now ... drumroll ... how come you aren't going to remain his partner? It is up to you which exit strategy you choose to employ. Here are a few suggestions. (1) You have discovered you are a lesbian. (2) You have determined that you would rather focus on yourself and improving yourself rather than be in a relationship. (3) You are going to be traveling abroad or accepting a new job that demands all of your time and can't possible be the awesome partner that he rightfully deserves.
It is most important that you honor him for everything he is and has done for you in the relationship before telling him that it is over. This will lessen the effect of the crushing news that you are about to deliver to him. Good luck!
Yours,
Elyse